The Changing Relationships In Your Life When Parenthood Is Around The Corner
Few things make us really stop and consider life and our relationship to it the same way becoming a parent does. All of a sudden all of those things that we have blindly just accepted are now in question, as though peeling through the first part of our lives will open up a world of knowledge that we feel we need. Of course, this period of questioning and evaluating is bound to change at least a few of the relationships we have in our lives if not all of them.
The mysterious door is opening up for you and of course this means that you are bound to find that new things are waiting for you. The changes that are going to happen will be grand and huge, and a lot of those changes will simply be an internal experience. While we can physically prepare for the arrival of our first child, we can not always prepare for the onslaught of questions that our mind starts to pelt at us.
Strapping in the Evenflo convertible car seat feels like preparing, despite the fact that one of the things we really want to focus on is confronting our parents about the way the decided to discipline their children. We start to consider whether we are truly prepared since we are so conflicted about the way we were raised. Will a car seat help us feel like we’re a bit closer to ready?
Neatly stacking the baby bath towels in the linen closet doesn’t prevent us from questioning whether our best friend and the behaviors that go with them is really in our new family’s best interest. Yet we can often find that the more we keep the new baby belongings in order and ready to go the more in control we feel despite our need to examine every relationship.
Setting up the baby bath tubs and all of the cute little baby products that go with it will not erase the haunting feeling that we are walking into parenthood with a significant other that maybe just isn’t exactly perfect for the job. Our mind can race ahead of us with various scenarios and an imaginary world of possible wrongs that could happen tomorrow. Yet this is not the same thing as facing any real problems of today that might need to be worked out before the baby comes.
Questions at this stage are part of preparing. Your relationship dynamics may very well change. They may even change drastically from one relationship to another. It’s a normal part of evolving into a part.
Other people in your life are also likely to change as your child enters their life. The best you can do is operate at your level best every day. One day at a time is the most you can really take it on, so why try to take on months at a time?